Chapter 21 – Making friends
Summer of 2004
Don’t get me wrong, I like having fun and playing with my son, but he needed to get some friends of his own too; he was also bored with hanging with dad all day while I worked.
Luckily one of his classmates in 3rd grade, Justin became good friends with Sam, which none of the other kids in his class ever bothered to be-friend Sam. They would play in the backyard, where I would look out the window in my office and be able to keep an eye on them. Justin’s mom would come pick him up after a few hours.
One day Sam came running into my office “dad can I have a sleepover, I want Justin to spend the night, can he dad, huh can he, oh please daddy please”
“Ok son, just calm down, we will discuss it with your mother first, then we can discuss it with Justin’s mom and Dad.” I said, thinking of all the reasons why a sleepover could go bad. Would Justin be comfortable with Sam being in diapers, did Samuel say something about the baby room, did he even ask Justin.
I called Jackie at lunch “Hey hun, Sam wants to have Justin over for a sleepover, what are your thoughts?” Like any other good mother, she said that she would be fine with a sleepover, and told me to talk to Justin’s mom about it when she came by to pick him up.
That day when Justin’s mom came over to pick him up we talked and she seemed kinda off about the idea of a sleepover. “Is there a problem with Justin sleeping over, he is one of Sam’s only friends, and it would mean a lot for him to have friends”
“Well honestly Justin has never really stayed away from home before…. He kinda has a little problem at night….” She trailed off.
“So he is a bedwetter?” I asked
She blushed and nodded her head, “Yes, he is”
“If that’s the case, that is not a problem, we can handle that” I said
“He’s just so embarrassed about it, and I don’t know what to do about it, he refuses to wear anything, we bought him those goodnites things, but they are too big, and he refuses to wear pull-ups or diapers. So he has a plastic sheet on the bed, and I am washing sheets daily.” She continued “So, I wouldn’t want to make anybody else have to deal with that”
“It is not a problem, I do laundry daily, we use cloth diapers around here, and all the beds are protected, even mine” I gave a chuckle. “If he has an accident, or wants to come home, I will be more than happy to take him home”
“Hey, would you mind telling me where you get the diapers that Sammy uses, I’d like to see if Justin would try to wear something when he comes over” She asked sheepishly
“Sure, well the disposables we get from a place out west, we get them by the case. The cloth diapers are made by my mom, aunt and grandma, they are great at making them. I would be more than happy to give you some of the disposables and loan you some of the cloth diapers.” I said as the boys kept playing on the swingset. “Come inside and I’ll fix ya up with some supplies”
I took Justin’s mom inside to the laundry room and got her some diapers and showed her how the cloth diapers work, and then they were off. The sleepover was set for that Friday night, Sammy was so excited that he barely slept Thursday night.
Friday came and around noon Justin’s mom dropped him off “OK, boys, go play in the backyard while I talk to Justin’s mom.” As the boys ran off I asked “So how did the diapers work I sent home?”
“Well the first night was a little rough, I had to tell him that he had to either try them, or he would not be able to sleep over, that worked! He tried the disposables the first night, and the cloth ones the next night. I need to get with your aunt to get some more made. He honestly said that he was happy that the bed was not wet in the morning, so I think we have a solution”
Justin’s mom left shortly after our conversation and I ventured to the backyard to see what they boys were up to, just pure fun.
That night I sent the boys off to get showers and then back to Sammy’s room. Justin walked in right as I got Sammy diapered up and was grabbing a onsie for him. “give me just a moment Justin, and I will get you ready for bed too”
“Mr. Ross, are you going to diaper me too?” he asked, just now realizing that his mom was not there to get him ready.
“Yes, just hop up here” I patted the changing table, and quickly diapered him up for the night.
“mr ross what kind of shirt is Sammy wearing?” Justin asked inquisitively
“well Justin, that is a onsie, it is a shirt that does not come untucked, and it holds the diaper close to you. Would you like to wear one too?” He nodded yes, so I put one on him. “OK, if you two want to come out to the living room, we can watch the Cars movie”
The boys got comfortable on the sofa and I started the movie and then went to the kitchen to pop some popcorn and get some drinks for the boys, me and the wife. Juice for me and the boys, and a glass of wine for my wife. She can drink, I cannot.
“Here you go boys”, as I passed them bowls of popcorn, and then came around the couch and passed out the drinks.
As I transferred over to the couch. Sammy crawled up in my lap and raised his drink, I looked over at Justin and realized what I did. I am so used to giving Sammy a sippy cup, and had given one to Justin as well.
“umm Mr Ross, what is this?” Justin asked as he looked at the sippy cup.
“It’s just juice, it tastes good, jut put it in your mouth like this and suck on it like a straw” Sammy said as he snuggled close to me and drank his juice.
“you can sit next to me on the other side if you want to Justin” I said and Justin climbed over towards me on the sofa and lay against me like Sammy. There I sat with two little good boys on either side of me. Neither made it to the end of the movie. Jackie and I took the boys to bed and changed diapers. Then it was off to bed for me too.
The next morning, I got up with Jackie and went to the kitchen and fixed breakfast for everyone. Waffles, eggs, bacon and sausage, yummy. Right about when everything was done, Jackie slipped off to Sammy’s bedroom and came back with two very sleepy and wet little boys, and we had breakfast.
About halfway through I saw Justin start squirming, knowing what this meant I told him “Justin, it is ok if you use the diaper when you are awake, that’s what they are for” A minute later I saw a distant look on Justin’s face and then smelled that somebody made a load in their diaper, with 3 of us in diapers it could have been any of us. We just carried on like this was normal, which it was. Usually diapers are not changed till after breakfast.
After we all were done eating, Jackie and I ushered the boys into the bedroom for diaper changes. We had two wet and messy boys.
Halfway through changing Justin, I went to grab him some clothes, he asked “can I wear another diaper” to which I replied “sure, it is no problem” and left it at that.
Justin would not be the first boy at our house that wore diapers. After that weekend, Sammy had many other friends including Justin who spent the night. Suprizing enough, there were a good number of bedwetters in the group, some that were not bedwetters, and one kid that was incontinent like Sammy. Many of the boys who were not incontinent also ended up in diapers “just to try them”